New Year 2022/23 -- Reflections, Contemplations and Dreaming Big

New Year 2022/23  --  Reflections, Contemplations and Dreaming Big
 
What a year this has been ūüė≤! A year full of excitement, joy, lifelong unforgettable memories, but also a year with challenges, hopes that we’re dashed, things that can’t be changed which called for acceptance, compassion and forgiveness. 

There is always the one and the most important only one that can be changed, and that is You - and I ūüėć … how we responded to situations, how we grew ‘because’ of whatever came our way, how we dealt with challenges and became stronger and maybe more compassionate persons. 

You might have had moments when it seemed easier to give up, I had them, too; when it seemed that no matter how hard one tries it still felt like climbing up a downhill escalator with little or no progress. 
But we, nonetheless, did our best! We did not surrender to our weaknesses, imagined defeats and fears, we soldiered on regardless. We kept the faith. 

We are still standing and taking step by step forward. It is progress not perfection after all!
The door to a new year and a new season is opening for all of us. What is your dream, your cherished desires to come true?

I know for myself it means a determined move toward expansion of realised possibilities. In a few weeks, February 8th, I turn 70. I decided that with my now 30+ years left on this planet I will make the best of it! 

When one and a half years ago I died and was brought back, after I experienced a NDE, I knew that there was a reason that I was granted another opportunity … another opportunity to learn to love deeper, bring more hope, bring more light into a dark world, bring more compassion and healing, bring more joyful sunshine and dreamy playfulness. 

I know that I choose to be authentic with my own gifting, even when some people don’t get what I am offering, when I fearlessly open my hands, heart and knowledge with what I know for sure works, be it the products I use and recommend, or the healing arts from my private practice. 

…. when I fearlessly ignore naysayers who scoff at home based endeavours that potentially can bring security and material safety in these times of uncertainties, heralding the possibility to go from surviving to thriving. 
I dream to bring this mission of a future of hope to all who choose to lock arms with me, and together we work towards changing and enlighten our part of the world! 

I wish to thank everyone of you who have walked with me so far, and to everyone who will join me in serving those divinely sent to us. Together we will not be defeated, together we are strong, together we will rise and take our place!

I joyfully anticipate serving you and moving together as one into a most blessed future! Together we will do it!
Wishing you a most exquisitely healthy and successful 2023, a time when living consciously out of our overflow is a legacy game changer for generations to come. 

All my love,
 

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Mending Couple's Heartbreak

Mending Couple's Heartbreak
It was a peaceful Saturday afternoon, I had just completed an errant and was on my way home when my phone rang.

It was Sally (name changed to protect them). I knew if Sally rang it was important! So, I pulled over and switched the engine off and answered the call.

Between sobs and crying, I just made out, “Geli, we need you now! I am going to leave him, I had enough!”

Thoughts raced through my mind as I did a U-turn and headed towards Sally’s house.

Goodness knows what happened again! Sally and Peter had been clients of mine for a while. Both had severe emotional scarring from past trauma, and there were times when it was just short of another major crisis, or .... plain too much!

One thing I knew was, sincere love for each other had kept them together for over 30 years. So for Sally to howl into the phone, “I’m going to leave him!”, left me alarmed ....

I pulled my car into their drive, and rang the bell. Peter answered, his face red and furious.

Thankfully I always carry a small bag of calming and emotionally grounding essential oils. He knew the routine and stretched out his hands for me to put some drops into his palms. He knew what to do, how to activate the oils for their vibrational frequencies to turn up strong, and then buried his face in his hands to breath in the therapeutic healing aroma.

With him kinda sorted, meaning, he stopped shouting, ranting, and .... I turned to Sally who was shaking almost out of control and hyperventilating, hardly getting any breath.

With her permission, I laid my oils dripping hands on the belly and heart, and calmingly instructed her to start breathing into her belly.

I added some more oils on my hands and then used Energy Psychology, tapping on her meridian points, as she breathed in the therapeutic aroma.

She slowed down in her breathing and was able to sit still, looking at me for the first time since I arrived, quietly mouthing “Thank you”.

I got them both in a calmer state, and now it was time for the next step. Heart Breathing.

Sally was willing to get up and walk over to Peter. I gently instructed them to put their non-dominant hand on each other’s hearts and imagine that they could breath through their own heart into the heart of the other via their hands.

At the same time I requested that they would look into each other’s eyes. Gently, I instructed Peter to gaze into Sally’s eyes, beyond her beautiful brown eyes, right into her soul, and see the little girl, that was so frightened.

Slowly, a little tear emerged from the big, strong man as he beheld his sweet lady.

He could not hold back any longer, he tenderly cupped her head in his hands, kissing her forehead and gently pulled her into his arms. Now both had tears running down their faces, tears of love, as they tenderly kissed each other.

Ho'Oponopono

Ho'Oponopono
Ho Ľoponopono (ho-o-pono-pono) means to make right. It's an ancient Hawaiian healing practice of forgiveness.

E KALA MAI IA 'U = (I'm Sorry, Please Forgive Me)
MAHALO NUI LOA = (Thank You Greatly)
ALOHA NO WAU IA 'OE = (Aloha To You, "I Love You")

The heart of Ho Ľoponopono is taking full responsibility for every emotion and feeling in your life. This is empowering because it means that you don’t have to change another person, it’s an inside job anyone can do. It feels empowering as you are then no longer the victim in any shape of form! It frees you to resolve your problems. You are totally responsible for your own responses to life, for what you perceive to be your reality.
It’s so easy to repeat those four phrases:
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you
So, whatever you might be feeling about a situation or another person, such as rage, anger, frustration, helplessness, sadness, or any other negative emotions, understand that these are your own emotions and have nothing to do with the situation upsetting you, or the other person being the perpetrator. All you do is 100% own your feelings, your own reaction, triggered often by the various filters we built up in our subconscious over the years.

So, using the Ho Ľoponopono technique to clean or clear your own feelings in yourself and starting to feel better as a result, then something else happens that is exciting. Energetically, this affects the other person/s or situation and also causes a change to happen.
Ho Ľoponopono is all about dissolving a problem within yourself. It’s not about changing anything on the outside.
Whenever people look on the outside, e.g. I don’t like that person or that situation, they are coming from the wrong perspective in terms of Ho Ľoponopono. Instead, what you want to look at is, ‘why are you afraid, or disturbed, or whatever, about …’ why are you focusing on the situation? Ho Ľoponopono will help you dissolve that concern, that worry.
As you take care of the feeling of concern inside of yourself, the problem, as you experience it, will dissolve from an energetic level.
So, the key is, focus on the ‘inner’, rather than on the ‘outer’. We want to clean our perception of reality on the inside, our perception of lack – rather than thinking, when will the change in my circumstances happen? Then we see that there is an abundance of possibilities around us.
When it comes to Ho Ľoponopono, there are no ‘outer’ problems. You perceive a problem as outside of yourself relying on your senses and interpreting the events according to your subconscious filters. One of Dr. Hew Len’s favourite statements is, “Have you ever noticed, that when there is a problem, you are there?!”
Why? because you are participating in the creation of that problem. The participation is an ‘inside event’. So, when you take care of the problem on the inside, cleaning that issue as you perceive it, in your mind-body system, then, that ‘outer’ will change.
When we focus on that problem residing in our psyche, that problem we are holding in our awareness, and then do the Ho Ľoponopono cleaning:
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you
… that problem inside of us will then dissolve. When you don’t feel it in your system any more, you won’t even see it any more. Even if you still see the physical evidence, new ideas of opportunities rise up within you to deal with it, but, again, this still comes from within you.
When it comes to issues with another person, it’s not about the other person, it’s about yourself; it’s not so much forgiving the other person, but forgiving yourself.
Let’s dissect the phrases:
When I say, “I’m sorry”, I am actually saying, “I’m sorry that I have been unconscious, please forgive me for not being aware of my own programming, my own beliefs, my own negativity, of my past memories. Forgive me, and I am sorry for not being alert in a conscious responsible way to how helped create the problem I am perceiving.”
The next phrase you’re saying is, “Thank you”. You’re thanking Divinity for cleaning this problem from within you.
Then finish off with, “I love you”. The essence of Divinity is love, thus you are merging yourself with the essence of love itself. This is also expressing your devotion of the Divine.
Thus, there is quite a bit of energy behind each of those phrases, almost like a spiritual combination lock that opens up the feelings within you, and then releases them.
So, it does not matter whatever it is, an issue of forgiveness of somebody else, or whatever you are perceiving as a problem, focus on that as you are saying those four phrases, building a connection with the Divine. That is the recipe. Quite simple and powerful.













Forgiving From The Heart

Forgiving From The Heart

Forgiveness Can be a challenge ... a very raw and personal post.

( A story that is intended to inspire a healing process in those who are struggling with it)




(Picture here of my mother and myself as a little one.)

A few days after the International Mother’s Day (the UK celebrates it in March), I wish to honour my mother. 

Those who know me very well know that I had a difficult upbringing and a very bad relationship with my mother. Suffice it to say that when I flew over to Germany from Hong Kong, where I lived at the time, for the funeral of her untimely death at 65, I stood at the large family tomb where she was laid to rest, and was exceedingly glad that she was finally gone!

However, my childhood traumas and past continued to haunt me.

Throughout my years on this earth with her around I did not feel safe, accepted, wanted, treasured, and loved for who I was and am. Rather, I felt the bitter resentment from her that I was not a boy, I never measured up to her extremely high expectations, simply, I was not good enough. She displayed many classic narcissistic traits. I was a huge disappointment, constantly compared to other kids, neglected and abandoned into my own little world, left for abuse and sexual harassment as a little girl, and the list goes on. 

It took me decades to work through to forgiveness, and now at nearly 70 I can confidently say that I have 100% totally forgiven her, from my heart, not just from my head!  Although beyond the veil, I have a cherished and loving relationship with her, now.

What happened? Well, two major aspects: I decided to really understand her life, her childhood, etc. from her perspective … imaginatively walking in her shoes. 

My mother had a complex family upbringing. Her mother, my grandmother, came from a very old German aristocratic and nobility lineage, related to Bavarian royalty. Her father was a very wealthy highly educated lawyer and judge of Jewish descend with a pharmaceutical family legacy.

Her parents' personal tragedy and complicated family history shaped her into the person she became. Plus, her family lost virtually everything due to the World Wars. They were in a position to save and get many Jewish people rescued. My grandfather died when my mother was only 19. Stories abound around much trauma and hardship she, her mother and her four siblings endured. 

She fought hard to achieve the highest possible grades to become a top qualified clinical pharmacist ... all during WWII, and at a time when women did not typically go to university.

And the other aspect, coming to the fullest realisation that without forgiveness, letting go of all the perceived wrongs, I perpetuated in my own prison. Being my own cruel prison guardian that not only affected my own life, but also the life of my family, my dearest loved ones. 

I was stuck in a self limited life. You see, it is never about the perpetrator, it is never about what happened to you, but how you interpret, personally frame what happened and how you deal with it. 

You are not responsible for someone else’s wrong, but you are responsible for your own healing and way out of your own personal prison. And you are responsible to lovingly create boundaries that honour your own sovereignty. 

When I let go of the tremendous load of baggage I had allowed to accumulate throughout my life, I realised that I had attracted people into my life by whom I experienced virtually the same or similar as from my mother. Once I let go, I opened the door to walk free. 

Yes it is true, you will continue to walk in the vicious deadly circle, attracting the same over and over, until you learn your lesson of complete forgiveness, letting go, and then honouring your own authenticity. We are here on this earth to learn the lessons of forgiveness! 

My biggest example came from someone dying on a cross saying, “Father forgive them for they don’t know what they are doing!”

Once I walked in peace re all that had happened, I started seeing how truly amazing and pricelessly precious and special my mother was!

I deeply appreciated her own wounds, battles, traumas, loneliness and devastations. She was trying to love her daughter from a wounded self that was still bleeding.
 
Throughout her life her dreams were cut short. Her dreams withered on the vine. She was a victim of her time. She reached new heights and then was badly pushed back down to suffer. 

(Picture of my  mother and father shortly before her death in 1985.)

Once I was able to extend compassion and forgiveness to her, my love for her started developing. 
Also, the moment I was able to fully forgive her, my Spanish cousin (grandfather’s side ... I have more relatives in Spain than Germany now...), started sharing some significant research into our ancestry findings with numerous pictures and copious documents. I came to realise that I was and am on an ancestral soul trajectory of divinely healing others as a mission for my life. 

Why do I write all this on a public post on the Internet, you might wonder? Well, my mission is to offer hope, healing and joy. There are millions of people who have sustained great suffering and trauma at the hands of those close to them, and forgiveness can be hard to work through!

So, yes, I am a psychologist, so yes, I have university degrees under my belt, so yes, I have textbook knowledge, but I also understand that I need to be relatable to the people I am divinely chosen to help. I need to be relatable to my clients first. 

Most likely you have been through far worse life traumas than I had. Most likely you have been through situations that others would not have coped, and did not cope. So, kudos to you for still being with us, and willing to heal and move forward, willing to be a shining light of hope to those in your life.
 
If I can walk by your side and be an encouragement, be an inspiration, be a guide for transformation in your life for the greater good for us all, I would be deeply honoured! Yes, I availed myself to holistic psychological healing tools, plus essential oils specifically chosen to work on the cellular level of trauma and PTSD. This is something I also offer my clients!

To complete, I read the following earlier on and it spoke to me, it might speak to you, too:

“As an empathic woman with intuitive gifts, it can take a lifetime to come into your full power and claim your truth.
This is especially true for those of us with a great deal of childhood trauma to uncover and resolve-- making it feel massively unsafe to rise in your sovereignty” (Carla Savetsky)

Are you willing to claim your truth?
Much love to you ūüíú