From Trauma to Freedom & Flourishing
From Surviving to Thriving
For Sexual Trauma Survivors
There is Hope!
Exceptional Wellbeing Path
to Recovering from Trauma
using Holistic Compassion, Vibrational Energy
and Somatic Focused Psychology ~
Flourish beyond trauma, stress, anxiety,
and depression
Discover and fully own your desires
on your own terms
Cultivate pleasure, sexual delight, and love
Create a new radiant life
discovering the joy and peace of mental wellness,
rather than living from a wounded history.
Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive.
Maybe there have been times ..... when you've become unexpectedly irritable, quick to anger, aggressive, or moody.
Or maybe there are phases when concentrating on a task at hand becomes difficult, feeling on edge or having feelings of anxiety.
Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.
Maybe you've experienced a series of bodily symptoms including fainting, dissociation, flashbacks, vertigo, chronic fatigue, or fibromyalgia ... or painful constrictions in your throat, trembling and tears and tears, or other intense emotions leaving you feeling humiliated and often judged.
Maybe, you're feeling isolated, alone and lonely, or disconnected from your surroundings and often avoid people, difficult to trust them ....
The mind replays what the heart can’t delete.
You might not recognise those symptoms I described because the effects of trauma differ from person to person.
Most likely you have a good idea what trauma feels like for you. However, you might not understand completely what causes your symptoms, or how to heal from them.
It is my intention to help you recognise patterns of sensations, feelings, and thoughts that arise when you are triggered or overwhelmed and provide you with tools you need to aid your healing.
One of the hardest things you may need to learn is:
You are worth unconditional love
and recovery!
“Trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering.” ~ Peter Levine
Trauma doesn't disappear when you ignore it
Geli's healing space
Your Path to Flourishing
The reason why you need emotional support is because it's important for survivors to be heard. To be understood unconditionally. To be able to express yourself without fearing criticism or harsh judgement. To be validated for your pain, suffering, and loss. For others to be there for you to encourage you, especially if you're having a bad day or feeling triggered.
Let the healing begin
"You can recognize survivors of abuse by their courage.
When silence is so very inviting,
they step forward and share their truth so that others know they aren't alone"
~Jeanne McElvaney
Yes, I too have lived through some agonizing and debilitating times and lessons.
As a four year old I experienced sexual abuse from a male family friend, plus regular inappropriate sexual touch from my aunt. Growing up into my teenage years and young adult, I found it impossible to allow myself to open up into intimacy and experience pleasure. It felt safer to stay in a zone of perceived control. I was raised to not say 'No!', that was deemed to be impolite and improper behaviour.
I was raised to not give voice to what I desired or what I was afraid of. I wound up in relationships with men who were emotionally and otherwise unavailable to me (that started with my own father who was virtually physically absent, and certainly not emotionally available).
I became a loner who wore the mask of an extrovert very well. Those who proclaimed to love me, I ran from ... how could I trust them or not being emotionally played with, teasing me with something I wanted dearly and then get it taken from me.
I craved for love, genuine heartfelt affections, and intimacy, but did not understand what that was and where to find it. I had major trust and boundaries issues except with animals and pets.
In my early twenties I became a captive hostage by an Indonesian man in the Netherlands who repeatedly raped me and threatened to kill me. When I managed to escape to the UK, three months pregnant form the rapes and sexual abuse, he threatened to kill me and the baby.
My parents resorted to getting me protected by Interpol. I lived in abject terror of somehow being found by him, and could not face getting anywhere near the Dutch border.
Following that traumatic experience, I wound up in a sexless and emotionally unavailable marriage, often crying myself asleep for lack of even the smallest bit of emotional and physical affection. I felt like existing in a silent tomb, nobody knew of the hidden agony I went through. After the marriage ended, I craved for powerful protectors to lean on, who again abused me emotionally and sexually.
Suffering in silence became normal, who would understand, after all I seemed such a happy and OK person behind the façade of my clearly up-beat, bubbly, fun and outgoing personality ... The shame of being blamed of having not had the courage to say no and fight off my abuser ... surely it was my fault that it happened ... surely I should have seen it coming ... but then there was the fear, the intimidation, the threats, I stayed frozen, battling with depression and helplessness ... Again and again I wanted to put all those events behind me and move on.
But there is hope ... and you're not alone!
"There is no greater agony than
bearing an untold story inside you"
~ Maya Angelou
Step by step I took charge of my own healing, so that I could not only give the gift of wholeness to myself, but also to countless of other survivors
... to you, my precious sisters and brothers. Together we rise, together we link arms and move forward ♥
"To heal is to touch with love that which we previously touched with fear"
~Stephen Levin
I went back to university and earned my degrees in psychology.
I found that trauma does not get easily resolved by the typical clinical and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), or talk therapy, as trauma tends to be held on a cellular and energetic level throughout the body. Hence, people who think that they have managed their trauma, PTSD or Complex PTSD, get flared up when triggered.
Sadly, also, talk therapy with going back into the past, often just re-traumatizes the survivor again. It's not unusual for clients to stay in therapy for decades and not getting any better.
It is also interesting to note that the average physician receives less than twelve hours of sex education during his or her entire medical training. The average therapist, unless specializing in sexual "dysfunction," receives less than nine hours. Most commonly sexual violence and complex trauma survivors in the UK (NHS) are on a waiting list to see a therapist up to 12 months. When they are finally allocated a counsellor, they are only offered short term therapeutic support of between 6 and 12 sessions which does not permit sufficient time to fully explore the impact of complex trauma and systematic sexual violence. (Christiane Sanderson, BSc. MSc. Psychology child sexual abuse, sexual violence, complex trauma and domestic abuse).
A sex-positive, nonjudgmental attitude will be your most valuable asset in sexual healing,
as sex for survivors can be laden with with contradictions,
guilt, and self-blame.
My orientation is based on the disciplines of “Positive Psychology” and “Energy Psychology” with NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), Emotional Freedom Technique - EFT Tapping, a clinically proven mind-body modality, the Eden Method, as originated by Donna Eden's Energy Medicine, Matrix Reimprinting (a combination 
of NLP and EFT Tapping), TRE (Trauma Releasing Exercises) created by Dr. David Bercelli, underpinned by the research by Dr. Peter Levine, Somatic Psychotherapy, as well as with therapeutic grade Essential Oils. My work is weaving a tapestry of holistic vibrational energy healing arts, Western and Eastern science, metaphysics, and spirituality.
of NLP and EFT Tapping), TRE (Trauma Releasing Exercises) created by Dr. David Bercelli, underpinned by the research by Dr. Peter Levine, Somatic Psychotherapy, as well as with therapeutic grade Essential Oils. My work is weaving a tapestry of holistic vibrational energy healing arts, Western and Eastern science, metaphysics, and spirituality. It's a kaleidoscope of Quantum Field perspective, and Whole Person Psychology rather than traditional “Clinical Psychology” with the aim to bring unique individual healing and flourishing to those she is divinely appointed to serve.
I have facilitated emotional and mental healing and wellness for people worldwide.
I'm here to help you on your own path of freedom and flourishing,
no longer living from a wounded past,
with the joy of freely-chosen,
healthy sexual pleasure and intimacy.
“When we keep our stories locked up inside of us, darkness wins.
We must share what we’ve lived,
what we’ve learned,
and how we have become stronger through our experiences,
in hopes that it helps others find their voice, too.”
~ Laura Gagnon
~ Laura Gagnon
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If you are in a dangerous situation experiencing rape, sexual assault, sexual abuse and other types of sexual / domestic violence, please contact the police or your closest crisis hotline for safety and help!
Geli's healing space
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Trauma is a fact of life. It does not, however, have to be a life sentence. Not only can trauma be healed, but with appropriate guidance and support, it can be transformative.
DISCLAIMER
The information presented here is for educational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, prescribe or treat any health condition and should not be used as a substitute for consulting with a professional health care provider.
